4.9.13
People and Identification
24.8.13
(Wearing a Wig)
Wearing wigs are great way to add to your look. You can change everything about the way your hair looks in a second, going from long brown to short blond, and back again as the days pass. If you’re having a ‘bad hair day’, you have something to fall back on without getting too annoyed by your hair. They are a great accessory to invest in.
When buying a wig to wear, first look at your local options. If you do a little looking, you’ll probably be able to find a wig shop near you. Some will be real human hair, and high in price (in the hundreds), and some will be cheaper. However, there are places to purchase great quality wigs online for fairly cheap as well, if that’s the sort of way you’d like to purchase it.
There are no rules when buying wigs. You can go for unnatural colours, wacky and crazy, or something natural looking.
- If you can’t decide on wear to start when buying a wig, try something opposite of your current hairstyle. Something long if it’s short, or something dark coloured if it’s light.
If you don’t already have one, or your wig shop didn’t give you one for no added costs, you should invest in a wig cap. Unless you have very short hair, wig caps are very much important to how your wig will look.
- If you have long hair, tie it back in a ponytail, before putting on your cap. This way, there wont be a few hairs that fall out throughout the day, because its tied back.
- You may also consider using ‘bobby pins’ and hair pins to hold the cap, or the wig in place.
When you first get a wig and it’s been packaged, shake out the curls if it’s curly, and use your hands to gently set the hairs in place so that it doesn’t look like it’s been pressed for a long time.
- Take your wig to the hair salon and get it trimmed and styled the way you would like it to look, if it isn’t pre-styled or cut to the way you like it to look.
- When you put on your wig, you may want to fix your eyebrows to match, or to look more similar to the wig. You obviously don’t have to, but you might want to consider it if that’s how you want it to look.
- You can use a little bit of corn starch on synthetic wigs to make them look less plastic, just dust a small amount of it throughout.
Don’t be nervous about wearing wigs in public. Even if you know that you aren’t fooling everybody, and everybody knows it’s not your natural hair, you should never be embarrassed to wear it. It’s just another accessory to your outfit or style, like a nice pair of shoes or a hat. For example, when you wear high heeled shoes, it’s not like people think you are trying to fool them into believing that your taller than you are!
Wearing wigs to work or class for the first time may make you feel a bit nervous, if no one else there wears wigs. Who knows, by the end of a few months, everyone could be wearing them.
It’s good to experiment with wigs. Different companies, colours, lengths, styles, it doesn’t hurt to try something completely new out.
- Store your wigs on a wig stand to keep the shape. Store in a place wear it doesn’t get to hot, and if you have pets, you should be careful that they don’t get into them, because they will!
- Wash them as often as they get dirty and stale, washing them may be different for different wigs, so if you buy one, ask the store clerk, or consult the package to see what it says about washing.
- It’s best to dry the wigs on a stand to keep the shape as it dries, but careful about placing a wet wig on a foam wig stand, they tend to become mouldy.
21.8.13
Dresses
I don’t much like the dresses they sell today in woman’s clothing shops. I wasn’t exactly sure why for a while, it’s not that the patterns are so bad, or that they are shaped strangely, but I recently realized the main difference between an enticing dress that a girl could wear anyway from the 1960s, and one from today is the area between the upper chest to the neck.
Today I went to attend my classes and saw at least thirteen girls wearing strapless dresses. I was shocked how sort of ‘too much’ the look was. It doesn’t even look like a dress, more like a fancy bath towel being draped around a girl with a belt. I was imaging how easy it would be for someone to accidentally step on her poor ‘dress’ on the stairway, causing it to slip right off of her.
This is the kind of dress a girl can depend on to stay on, and fulfil it’s purpose as clothing.
I really don’t wear many dresses myself. I have a longer skirt, but I’m not always into the ‘guys in dresses thing’ except for certain circumstances. So I really don’t know much about this sort of thing, but it sort of shocked me today, to find out how much I didn’t like this particular style fad.
1.8.13
8 Creative Influences:
1. Ziggy Stardust
David Bowie’s androgynous, extra-terrestrial, persona that he preformed on stage as is a very eye catching creature. With “screwed up eyes, and screwed down hair-do”, Bowie mixed acting, sexuality, and glam rock music to create one of the most entertaining stage shows of the early 1970’s. The totally far-out and inhuman appearance of Ziggy, with multi-coloured space suits, and mile high platform shoes turned a lot of individuals on to a different set of fashion, including myself. The fact that his character was so complete with an unheard of hair cut and shaved eyebrows made things seem to me that, in some way- everything can be attractive with a little help. Ziggy made sex an interesting factor in the show as well. The dynamic sexual tension between him and Mick Ronson (One of the ‘Spider’s from Mars’) was electric enough to feel in the air, as they sung together, with Ziggy’s passionate eye contact, or him going down on Mick’s guitar. Although it was an act from the both of them, it was so thrilling and appealing to all sexes, that it almost makes you step outside of your sexual orientation to get a better view.
David Bowie put an end to Ziggy after only preforming as him for about a year. It was as if Ziggy, the effectual alien creature, was fighting for control of David’s own mind. It was only best that David should jump right out of his alternate persona before it took over of his personality completely. As David had already prophesized in his ‘Ziggy Stardust’ album, Ziggy was destroyed by the energy of his fans. But he still is very influential on all sorts of people today. The style, music, and general energy of Ziggy is still completely unforgettable and inspiring.
2. Syd Barrett
Syd Barrett’s short lived music career as part of ‘Pink Floyd’ in the late 1960’s and brief solo career in 1970 is still remarkable unforgettable and influential on all sorts of people today. His unfortunate mental abnormalities that caused him to stop preforming effectively, and made recording difficult as well ended his career, but his peculiar way of thinking only made his music seem more interesting while he was still able to successfully write and preform. His songs were psychedelic and whimsical, his voice was strong and sweet, and his guitar playing was mind-expanding and original. Aside from his music, he had a distinctive way with words and a delightful and content personality that caused him to be well liked by many, leaving quite a mark on those he knew, and even perfect strangers through his music. Although it’s terribly sad to hear the stories and rumours of his post-mental-breakdown life of seclusion, and the theories that his friends, and acquaintances have tried to put together to answer the question “What is the matter with Syd?”. After 30+ years of a peaceful solitude spent with his close family, Syd (now preferring to be addressed as his name ‘Roger’) passed away in 2006, but his music and charisma from his young adult life will live on forever as his music continues to be shared from one to another.
3. David Bowie
Although Ziggy Stardust was mentioned earlier, it was made very clear by David himself that there is a definite difference between the alter-ego character of Ziggy and David Bowie.
David Bowie is a kind man who tried many things in his life. Acting, singing, miming, dancing, it almost seems that he was built for fame. He was described by people who knew him as unpredictable, and has kept the interest of fans for decades. Currently, he lives with his beautiful wife and daughter, not preforming since having a sudden heart attack in 2004, but recently producing another album called ‘The Next Day’. His pre-Ziggy life was more laid back, and personal, and happens to be very inspiring that way. His personality is strong and unforgettable as he awes people with his dazzling way of words. His long career full of ups and downs will be common music knowledge for quite sometime.
4. Mick Jagger
Just like Bowie, Jagger managed to keep audiences attention for decades. He was a part of the popular British Invasion band ‘The Rolling Stones’ and is just as memorable as ‘The Beatles’ but with a more down to earth and straight to the point tone. His way of dress was fascinating, and his use of sexual vibes in his shows were just as alluring as the Ziggy Stardust concerts.
He had a strong, recognizable voice that made his songs easy to point out. The clothing he wore was also very inspiring. It was almost able to be described as basic, but it memorable enough to love. His personality was also notable. It was able to take everything that happened around him. Although he sometimes quarrelled with Keith Richards and other people he was with. He was so realistic that way.
5. Roger Waters
Roger Waters was a singer/songwriter also for the band Pink Floyd. Along with writing a lot of music with strong lyrics to match his strong singing, he wrote a film called ‘The Wall’ based off one of his stage shows/albums.
It is also clear that he was deeply affected by the ‘breakdown’ of his long time friend Syd Barrett, and based many of the themes of his songs and albums off of mental illness and insanity. He still occasionally preforms even though he is no longer a part of Pink Floyd. He’s a deep thinking individual with the ability to successfully transfer his inner thoughts and feelings through his music. He seems so realistic and enthusiastic on stage which makes him an easy to like as a person.
6. Marc Bolan
Another glam-rock icon, Marc Bolan is a singer and guitar player. His concerts were very alive and energetic. His music was bouncy and easy to move and dance to. His style was inspirational too (I love his hair & blazers).
Oddly enough, at one point, he married a girl named June Child who was a former secretary/manager to Syd Barrett.
Unfortunately his music career began to slow down, and tragically, in 1977, he died in a fatal car crash. It doesn’t matter how many years ago the horrible crash occurred, it still saddens me to remember how unfortunate poor Marc’s wonderful life came to an end.
7. Andy Warhol
What’s there to say about him? Isn’t he great? He knew how to just sit back and be entertained by the world around him.
8. Joey Ramone
Lead singer and frontman for the punk band ‘The Ramones’, Joey was another energetic stage performer. His realistic personality was a very fun thing to watch. His constant humour and joking in interviews made him feel like a realistic and down to earth kind of guy.
His (and The Ramones)’s music was fast paced, loud with heavy and guitar that was easy to jam too, and surprisingly simple, yet incredibly entertaining. He was six feet, six inches tall, and thin as a pole, wearing bright red coloured glasses hidden under his long black hair. His distinctive looks made him stick out from the rest of the band members.
He unfortunately passed away in 2001 of lymphoma, but his music is still enjoyed by many today. It kicked off the start to the ‘punk rock’ music genre. Although I’m not that much into the punk style, Joey was a big influence on my life.
31.7.13
“I want to be a gentleman, you just need to give me a chance!”
My personality, actions and demeanour are always a mix between masculine characteristics, and female traits, so finding an obvious way for expressing masculinity is not always as easy as it could be if I wasn't such an outlandish gender-bender.
I express my feminine traits with ways of dress, clothing styles, and sometimes even with cosmetics. I have a few feminine habits such as folding my legs while sitting, and gesturing my hands often when speaking. You may be surprised what volumes your common physical habits can speak.
However, expressing masculinity is a little bit harder when stereotypically, people see me as the kind of person who would much rather be the less dominant figure in a group of both men and woman.
Little acts of kindness acting towards females really help. It makes a lady feel good, and it makes a man feel more ‘dominant’ (please don’t take offense to my terminology if there are any ladies reading this, I’m certainly not saying that woman are any less than men).
- Pulling out someone’s chair when they sit down
- Opening doors for your friends, girlfriend, or strangers behind you
- Holding a girl’s hand when walking across a street (mostly applying to couples, other’s may be offended or annoyed)
- Taking your lover’s jacket, or putting it on when leaving or coming to a place indoors
- Carrying books for someone (students: you may think it’s out of date, but it’s very much not so!)
- Complimenting someone when greeting them
- Treat all woman with respect, even ones who haven’t given you any. (It may seem pointless to be nice to someone who will never give any thought to liking you, but other people will see how tolerant you are of that sort of thing, and it’s very attractive in a man.)
- A gentleman will not swear in the presence of a lady, or someone in authority of you. (Boss, parent, etc.)
- Gift your lover with flowers, candy or whatever it is she fancies. All though I used the typical flower/candy gift as an example, other things like music, or jewellery are also important. Jut ask what sort of things she likes.
- Don’t let other people insult any lady you are with, but don’t start fights either. Just make sure that the women you are with get their desired respect.
24.7.13
I’m not a lady, darling! My name is Freddie!
Do I lose my right as being called a ‘he’ when I dress myself femininely?
Men in Lipstick?
Dazzling, Colourful, and Glamorous
Men in Lipstick?
Men don’t usually wear lipstick. It’s a pretty obvious fact. However, straight men wearing lipstick is becoming more and more common each day.
Seeing a man wearing lip colour doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s walking around wearing a bright orange or red colour, but maybe a soft nude colour that is almost impossible to notice from afar. However, an individual should be able to wear whatever he or she pleases, so if you wish to wear bright colours, there should be nothing stopping you.
The key thing about wearing lip colours, especially the unnatural shades, is of course confidence. There may be stares, rude remarks, or teasing, but it’s key to remember that there is no reason for any of that. There should be more freedom of male expression.
If you don’t own any tubes of lip colour and you are unsure of what colour to buy, don’t be to afraid visit a make up counter in a department store. The individuals working there most likely won’t mind that you are a boy, and will do their best to help you find a colour that fits what you are looking for and looks wonderful too.
Some woman find men in lipstick incredibly sexual. Some are even drawn to it. All though others will be completely in horror by it, the fact is that these days more and more people are becoming open minded to men who wear cosmetics. In some subcultures, such as punk, goth and ‘emo’, wearing things such as eyeliner is incredibly common now. Using touches of make up to fix up the look of your face, eyebrows, etc. is also wonderfully acceptable.
So, to wrap things up, what is your opinion on a straight man wearing lipstick?
23.7.13
Flamboyant, but Not a Homosexual
When a woman is acts a little masculine, it really isn’t that big of a deal. In fact a lot of woman act ‘masculine’. It’s not something they can help, but part of their personality. In fact, some men find that sort of personality sexy. Just because a woman is a bit masculine doesn’t mean she’s lesbian, transgender, or transvestite in any stretch of the imagination. Luckily, for most people it’s quite acceptable. A woman can wear men’s clothing, pants, and lovely short haircuts without question.
So why is it so completely appalling when a man is feminine…and straight?
We see ‘feminine’ men quite often now days, but, stereotypically they are homosexual. And even homosexual men aren’t able to get away with walking around in woman’s clothing without teasing, or a comment here and there. If a guy walks into his high-school classroom in a dress, he is suddenly ‘gay’ or a ‘fag’. A man walks to the shop with a purse, he is automatically classified as a ‘homo’.
It’s happened to me quite a bit. It’s no secret that I like to wear a bizarre style of clothing, or occasionally some eye-catching make-up, and some people are quite accepting of it, but usually their reaction to something that is along the lines of “Oh, so you’re gay? Oh!”.
I’m not a homosexual, if anything, I’m a bisexual, or just a little bit queer in general. I like woman, more than anything, but it takes a very special and open minded woman to like me. Most (and I say most, not all) woman want a man who is strong, attractive, self reliant, and daring, not a sensitive and delicate guy like myself.
Wearing cross-sexual styles, and cosmetics doesn’t make me feel like any less of a man. I don’t mind the teasing, or the stares, or the comments. I’m just curious as to why a girl can still be a girl when she uses a wallet rather than a purse, or decides to get a men’s haircut, but when a man decides to put on lipstick, he becomes a ‘homo’?
Maybe I should be thankful, there was a time where it was unheard of for a woman to wear pants, and unacceptable for men to have too long of hair. But It would be nice if people could stop assuming that a man who looks feminine or acts is gay, it’s more of part of his nature, or identity, and personality then it is his sexuality.
The hardest part of being a flamboyant straight man is dating. What sort of girls am I supposed to date? Straight woman? Feminine woman? Masculine woman? Bisexual woman? I just like who I like, but most girls find it hard to get past the femininity in myself, especially since it hasn’t been ‘popular’ since the glam rock era.
I totally respect feminine homosexuals who love the same sort of thing as me, and transvestites, and transgender woman, but people should realize there is a difference between each one of them, and just because I fit the popular stereotype for a flaming homosexual, it doesn’t necessarily mean I like men.
21.7.13
Taking Care of Dyed Red Hair
Dying Red Hair
Before Colouring:
Colouring Your Hair:
General Care:
- Wash hair with shampoo every other to every three days. Generally as little as possible.
- Use colour depositing shampoos, or mix a little bit of temporary red colour (Raw Colour, Manic Panic, etc.) in your regular shampoo.
- If you swim quite a bit, you should invest in a swim cap (if you don’t already use one). Those chlorine filled pools will suck the red right out!
- If you don’t swim very often (once or twice between colourings), you don’t necessarily need a cap if you rinse your hair down with cold water before entering the pool, and if you keep your hair above water as much as possible.
- The sun seems to fade red hair the fastest, so if you plan on being in the sun for a long period of time, wear a hat!
- Use shampoo/conditioner that is specifically for dyed hair, or even red hair. It may be a bit more expensive, but it really does help in the long run.
- Deep condition your hair as frequently as possible.
- Take cold showers, as cold as you can stand them!
- Re-colour every 6-8 weeks.
- Try to use as little heat as possible (hair dryers, flat irons, curling irons).
- Three weeks after dying hair, I use a temporary colour (Raw Hair Colour) to liven my shade up a bit.
- Make sure that your hair is something you really enjoy! If it seems like caring for it is a burden, and not worth it, then you may not want to keep it. But keep in mind that no hair is perfect, and if you want to swim everyday without a cap, go for it!